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Tuesday, May 31, 2011
tuckered
Monday, May 30, 2011
So today I deactivated Facebook. It was a long time coming, but there's been a series of things by certain friends that have given me heartache and animosity for quite a while now. I am not going to get into the details, because I still harbor the hope that someday we will be....friends.....again.
But ultimately I just don't like how cliquey and high school Facebook feels to me. Because of certain people. Well, why don't you just delete them you ask? Because they are supposed to be my friends! I can't delete a group as a whole. And until I decide what to do about it, I'm distance myself from the entire situation.
A perfect example of why I hate Facebook happened after I made my status that I was deleting Facebook to "focus on myself and the people important to me". Well the real reason is people have hurt my feelings and I hate that at 27 it feels like I'm in high-school. And mostly, I HATE THAT IT BOTHERS ME AT ALL.
But anyways, I went in to deactivate tonight and I saw someone.....(who I previously had no problem with) who made a passive aggressive status about how she "finds it so funny that people have to delete Facebook to focus on themselves, if youre that addicted you have a problem". I am paraphrasing, but seriously I about snapped. I did send her a message, but she won't get it because I deactivated my account, but holy hell. THAT IS THE REASON WHY RIGHT THERE. That passive aggressive petty bullshit is why. I didn't want to burn bridges, I didn't want to point fingers, I didn't want to make it about them. I didn't want to act like she just did. So I didn't say what I really wanted to in my status.
Chances are she will never read this, but someone can feel free to send her a link to this post. This isn't high-school. I wish you all the best in the world, but things like that? They alienate people. And if I have learned one thing its that you don't want to do that.
Maybe someday we will live in the same town. Or you will have a child who wants to be an attorney and I could give them a break. Or a job. Or we will meet again and have to be cordial. Well guess what? Now? It won't be. And I won't have it hanging over my head that someone doesn't like me because of something I said on Facebook. its time to grow up. To pointedly direct something at someone in such a way is well....we know what it is.
And it was the ultimate factor in de activation. And its sad, because I do have friends who I don't see and whose pictures I love seeing and cousins who just had babies, and friendswho live far away but....for now, this is right.
Until I figure out what to do about them, and how to deal with me, its gone. I don't like that things that shouldn't matter do, and people who shouldn't be able to hurt my feelings can. That girl? She didn't hurt them, she just emphasized I was doing the right thing. I didn't get the satisfaction of saying my piece to her on Facebook, but I'm doing it here.
Slightly hypocritical? Perhaps. But unlike Facebook, this is not a place where 578 of my closest "friends" are guaranteed to see my words. Likely, no one will. But I deserve to voice myself too.
But ultimately I just don't like how cliquey and high school Facebook feels to me. Because of certain people. Well, why don't you just delete them you ask? Because they are supposed to be my friends! I can't delete a group as a whole. And until I decide what to do about it, I'm distance myself from the entire situation.
A perfect example of why I hate Facebook happened after I made my status that I was deleting Facebook to "focus on myself and the people important to me". Well the real reason is people have hurt my feelings and I hate that at 27 it feels like I'm in high-school. And mostly, I HATE THAT IT BOTHERS ME AT ALL.
But anyways, I went in to deactivate tonight and I saw someone.....(who I previously had no problem with) who made a passive aggressive status about how she "finds it so funny that people have to delete Facebook to focus on themselves, if youre that addicted you have a problem". I am paraphrasing, but seriously I about snapped. I did send her a message, but she won't get it because I deactivated my account, but holy hell. THAT IS THE REASON WHY RIGHT THERE. That passive aggressive petty bullshit is why. I didn't want to burn bridges, I didn't want to point fingers, I didn't want to make it about them. I didn't want to act like she just did. So I didn't say what I really wanted to in my status.
Chances are she will never read this, but someone can feel free to send her a link to this post. This isn't high-school. I wish you all the best in the world, but things like that? They alienate people. And if I have learned one thing its that you don't want to do that.
Maybe someday we will live in the same town. Or you will have a child who wants to be an attorney and I could give them a break. Or a job. Or we will meet again and have to be cordial. Well guess what? Now? It won't be. And I won't have it hanging over my head that someone doesn't like me because of something I said on Facebook. its time to grow up. To pointedly direct something at someone in such a way is well....we know what it is.
And it was the ultimate factor in de activation. And its sad, because I do have friends who I don't see and whose pictures I love seeing and cousins who just had babies, and friendswho live far away but....for now, this is right.
Until I figure out what to do about them, and how to deal with me, its gone. I don't like that things that shouldn't matter do, and people who shouldn't be able to hurt my feelings can. That girl? She didn't hurt them, she just emphasized I was doing the right thing. I didn't get the satisfaction of saying my piece to her on Facebook, but I'm doing it here.
Slightly hypocritical? Perhaps. But unlike Facebook, this is not a place where 578 of my closest "friends" are guaranteed to see my words. Likely, no one will. But I deserve to voice myself too.
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